Things I’ve heard recently from friends or acquaintances when it comes to better work-life balance:
“You seem to have this whole work/life balance all figured out. It must be awesome to make your own schedule.”
“I want to be you when I grow up. You have time to workout. How do you even do these things when you’re a mom and own a business?”
Tell you what, it’s not luck, and it’s not easy. In fact, this is all hard work. And despite how things may sometimes appear on social media, I do not have the so-called work-life balance thing all figured out.
I was tempted to say work-life balance doesn’t exist, but I think it can exist if we change the way we look at it. Work-life balance isn’t actually something you achieve. You can’t determine a straight path and go right there. There’s no finish line. Instead, work-life balance is similar to fitness in that it’s a journey. The one constant will be change.
That said, I’ll do my best to give you some ideas how to help you enjoy the journey as you work towards the better work-life balance we’re all trying to figure out.
Here are a few reasons why I personally find it challenging:
This parenting thing is hard. In fact, it’s harder than I thought it would be.
Maintaining a healthy relationship with my husband can be hard. There are weeks we feel more like business partners or ships passing in the night. And other weeks where we see each other a little more, love each other’s company and remember why we’ve been married for almost 20 years.
Running a business comes with new challenges every single day. Some expected and some wilder than you’d imagine. It’s fun, but don’t think for one day I pick and choose my exact hours. Things come up and I often work way more than it might appear.
Training is fun for me, but there are absolutely days when I don’t want to or have a much harder time finding the time than others but I make me find some time even if is for 10 min.
Eating healthy most of the time is not what I’d classify as hard for me anymore, but you better believe I had some dark times just like everyone else. I struggled with body image and I’m overly familiar with cycles. It took time and a lot of hard work to put habits into place to make eating healthy feel easy. Don’t even get me started on my gut health. It’s still a battle I’m fighting and is really complicated but I am working on it.
Lastly, it’s really tough to find time to get together with friends. We’re all busy. Most of my friends have kids, activities, jobs and other friends. Finding times that work for everyone can be tricky. Most of the time it actually requires putting things on the calendar weeks (sometimes months) in advance. All of the time it requires asking for help and being specific about what I need.